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October 8, 2020
Reading JKW’s last post on ‘Going To The Dogs’ apropos losing contact with Billy Pownall in exchanging Christmas Cards reminded me of our stance on them these days.
When we first left the Army in 1993 and settled in England we averaged about 120-140 cards received and sent each year. V would string them together around the drawing room fireplace and festoon the mantle piece and multiple surfaces everywhere.
Truth be told V particularly enjoyed reading the little messages in those cards 80% of which came from military friends and comrades, the remainder from family and other friends, I never enjoyed writing 100 plus cards but it was a way of touching base once a year. As the years progressed the number of cards decreased. That was mainly my fault lol. The tradition of ensuring one sent a card to anyone who sent you a card began to irk me. Some of the cards we received and sent had become almost a habit, no real message just a scrawled ‘Happy Christmas from us all’. I started to question the whole ethos of the process. Make sure we don’t forget to send a card to so and so because they sent us one. Don’t bother sending them one they haven’t sent us one for 2 years running! You all know what I am talking about!
I began a process of sending cards only to those people who we really liked and had been good friends with. We stopped sending cards to family members opting instead to see them and wish them a happy Christmas or calling them. The following year saw a decrease in the number of cards we received that grew exponentially. The old adage of ‘don’t send us one, we won’t send you one’ mentioned above prevailed as I guessed it would. I accept of course some folk might think we had moved. Anyway as the years rolled by we sent and received fewer cards each year.
We now send no cards at all. We told close friends we we were stopping doing so some ( a few) still send us cards but most no longer do so. I guess it’s a bit ‘bah humbug’,V was never 100% for my actions although she never wrote the cards anyway, but I just found the whole process a bit wasteful, pointless and time consuming. Like I said ‘bah humbug’.
These days of course we facetime close family and friends and the whole social media process means everyone can make contact with everyone very easily.
Thoughts? Feel free to tell me I am Mr Grumpy, Scrooge etc lol.
October 9, 2020
Bah humbug,he he . So David yes with modern technology we can communicate with most of our friends and family. Then again it’s nice to see a family member or friends from days gone by go the extra mile and send a Xmas card ,and living outside the UK like quite a few old friends a card has the effect of giving memories of days gone by. True they are getting fewer than years gone by as we age ,now and again we have info on a death like the last months with Covid 9 of my friends have passed . Traditions like cards are a way of life to me ,yes they are getting expensive,but how do you value family or friendship,especially now reunions and family visits are on the back burner ,an example 2 years ago the Northern reunion had about 30 guys in the Sunday morning photo,last year there was 15 ,what number will be there 2021 .
October 9, 2020
I too, still send Christmas cards, although the list has diminished over the years due to the passing away of some, or others having not sent one back for 2 consecutive years (" removed from the list"!) etc - the Regiment had a tradition in that the WO's & Sgts Mess ALWAYS sent a Christmas Card to all former RSM's but that stopped, to me at least, a number of years ago, probably when "Rattles" went to the big "bar in the sky", because he always reminded PMC's / PEC's to write 'em out ! I still send to the majority of my neighbours ( by hand, not post !), even including dog treats in the envelope to those with dogs ! I must admit, it costs a fortune in postage these days, stamps sometimes costing more than the actual cards, when sending to those in far flung places, but hey, Mr Grumpy, it's only for once a year ! Happy Christmas to one & all, including all Mr Grumpy's !! John (JKW)
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